Can You Change a Man?

Husband Improvement - Part 3

As noted in my last post, many of a woman’s strategies for husband improvement backfire. Instead making the change(s) she desires, he becomes more defensive. Withdrawn. Perhaps angry and aggressive. “So does anything work to change a man?” you ask. Yes, and it’s a simple thing, really. I’m so excited that I finally figured it […]

Husband Improvement – Part 2

making sure your efforts don't backfire

Most women have developed a whole series of actions they believe will be motivating & encouraging for their men (husbands & sons, in particular). But most of the time, their guys stay the same … or actually get worse. So what exactly is it that women do that makes their men worse? less responsive? more […]

How to Change a Man

Husband Improvement - Part 1

You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will. It’s often more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project. But men are not projects. They are people. I don’t like to be […]

3 Great Reasons to Follow Your Husband

lessons from the dance floor

Why follow your husband? Growing up in a dysfunctional family taught me to pay close attention to my surroundings. I became a people pleaser to avoid the pain of anger, disappointment, and rejection. What was I really doing? I was manipulating everyone. My behavior was based on the most likely outcome, given what I had […]

The Beauty of Different

Men & Women are different. Always will be.

The following comment was recently posted in response to “embracing the dance” that I had shared on my social media pages: “I don’t agree with the premise that women want the men to lead.” I hear that a lot, actually. And I wouldn’t want anyone to spend time learning about something they are opposed to […]