Why Self-Effort Makes Having a Happy Marriage More Difficult

Inside, Outside, Upside Down

Looking over my journals for the last 20+ years, I can clearly see how much time I’ve spent whining and begging God to do something for me that He’s already done. I’ve pleaded with Him to be with me, to take care of me, and to bless what I’m trying to do. In short, I’ve […]

Can You Change a Man?

Husband Improvement - Part 3

As noted in my last post, many of a woman’s strategies for husband improvement backfire. Instead making the change(s) she desires, he becomes more defensive. Withdrawn. Perhaps angry and aggressive. “So does anything work to change a man?” you ask. Yes, and it’s a simple thing, really. I’m so excited that I finally figured it […]

Husband Improvement – Part 2

making sure your efforts don't backfire

Most women have developed a whole series of actions they believe will be motivating & encouraging for their men (husbands & sons, in particular). But most of the time, their guys stay the same … or actually get worse. So what exactly is it that women do that makes their men worse? less responsive? more […]

How to Change a Man

Husband Improvement - Part 1

You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will. It’s often more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project. But men are not projects. They are people. I don’t like to be […]

What do women want?

what a good question!

Women really aren’t that complicated. Most of us – women included – believe that women are more complicated than men. But we’re not nearly as complicated as we seem. Pretty much everything she wants from you – as even she would confess – has to do with her beliefs about one (or more) of the […]