Solving the Problem

make sure you're using the right tools

Women can be confusing. I’m the first to admit that. We’re also irresistible. That is by the Creator’s design. So when things aren’t going well, understanding the problem is key. Otherwise, you’ll try using a hammer where a screwdriver is needed. * * * * * * * Before & After If you notice some […]

Inside, Outside, Upside Down

why self-effort makes having a happy marriage more difficult

Maybe you remember the Berenstain Bears’ Inside Outside Upside Down. I know it well because I read (past tense) it to my three sons. The title describes the way many of us have been misinformed about how to have a successful marriage. Looking over my journals for the last 20+ years, I can clearly see […]

Communication: Do I Matter?

recognizing your mate's bids for your attention

In studying couple communication, Dr. John Gottman and his team of researchers have observed that partners continually make “bids” for one another’s attention, closeness, and reassurance. These bids were made through comments, questions, glances, and/or gestures. The couples seemed to be asking, on a regular basis: Are you there? Do I matter to you? Sometimes […]

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Dealing with Feeling

the purpose of emotion

Why did God give us emotions? First, our feelings enable us to fully enjoy the Good Things God has given us. Second, they activate our Personal Warning System. A signal that something is happening within us or around us. How physical feelings work can help us understand our Personal Warning System. Let’s say you’re walking […]

Perfect Partners

keep growing together

In the movie Fireproof, the statement “Never leave your partner behind” was a motto of the Fire Department. Caleb learned to apply that principle to his marriage. So what do we mean by partner when it comes to marriage? The Dictionary Definition: person who takes part with another Which of these synonyms define your partnership with […]

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