Dealing with Feeling

the purpose of emotion

Why did God give us emotions? First, our feelings enable us to fully enjoy the Good Things God has given us. Second, they activate our Personal Warning System. A signal that something is happening within us or around us. How physical feelings work can help us understand our Personal Warning System. Let’s say you’re walking […]

Perfect Partners

keep growing together

In the movie Fireproof, the statement “Never leave your partner behind” was a motto of the Fire Department. Caleb learned to apply that principle to his marriage. So what do we mean by partner when it comes to marriage? The Dictionary Definition: person who takes part with another Which of these synonyms define your partnership with […]

what do you believe about women

Who’s more complicated?

men? or women?

So many couples who are experiencing relationship problems seem to need an interpreter. In fact, what I mostly do during a couple’s counseling session is to to translate “what he just said” into words that she can understand, and then translate “what she just said” into words that he can understand. So on the surface, […]

Happy Couples

most of the time ...

In every relationship, partners continually make “bids” for one another’s attention, closeness, and reassurance through comments, questions, and gestures. In successful marriages, spouses respond positively to these bids *86% of the time. That means you could totally miss 14% of the opportunities presented and still be pretty happy! How cool is that? Through their words […]

The Knight in Shining Armor

and his vulnerability

Don’t you just love Medieval Stories? Stories about the Knight in Shining Armor who comes to the aid of the Damsel in Distress. We forget he’s wearing a lot of heavy gear to protect himself. Sometimes, once he’s broken through the castle walls, rescued his Fair Maiden, and settled down to a life without Fire-Breathing […]