Inside, Outside, Upside Down

why self-effort makes having a happy marriage more difficult

Maybe you remember the Berenstain Bears’ Inside Outside Upside Down. I know it well because I read (past tense) it to my three sons. The title describes the way many of us have been misinformed about how to have a successful marriage. Looking over my journals for the last 20+ years, I can clearly see […]

Three Steps

to a changed life

What conversations are you having with The Lord? If you slow down and listen to yourself, you might find that you’re falling into a familiar pattern. I know from experience how easily our prayers can become a totally unproductive, one-way “conversation” with Jesus. To affect a more effective prayer life, do these three things: Listen “Very […]

Out of the Loop

into the Know!

We usually think of being “in the loop” as a good thing. But we can also be caught in a loop – of negativity and “stinkin’ thinkin’.” It’s time to get out of the loop and into The Truth! Study the Word If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all […]

Vulnerable & Powerful

God's point of view

Christian Marriage is the most vulnerable and can be the most powerful human relationship in the clash between two kingdoms. And it is essential to know what the fight is really about. Couples often tell me about bad experiences in previous tries at marriage counseling. Even once would be too many. But it happens a […]