Living with Uncertainty

two kinds of men

It’s a fact. There are two kinds of men: those who are unsure of themselves, and those who hide the fact that they are unsure of themselves. Some are more successful at hiding than others, using one of two tactics: withdrawal, which gives the impression they just don’t care, or anger, giving the impression you […]

How to Change a Man

Husband Improvement - Part 1

You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will. It’s actually more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project. But men are not projects. They are people. I don’t like to be […]

The Beauty of Different

Men & Women are different. Always will be.

The following comment was recently posted in response to “embracing the dance” that I had shared on my social media pages: “I don’t agree with the premise that women want the men to lead.” I hear that a lot, actually. And I wouldn’t want anyone to spend time learning about something they are opposed to […]

My Moment of Truth

facing the challenge

It’s true that my father was absent from my life for 37 years. And that my first two marriages ended in divorce. For years I believed all of that was totally my fault. Later in life, I started studying men from a very different angle: first as an undergraduate psychology student, then as a grad […]