Why Men Think & Feel What They Do

the psychology of men & marriage

Like most older students (I was 40 by the time I started college), I wanted the content of my studies to have practical application to everyday life. As a single mother raising three sons, choosing my topic was easy. Every paper I wrote was about boys and men. Writing my dissertation on Mothers & Sons […]

Men & Vulnerability

here's the problem

“If we teach men to hide their vulnerability as boys, then shame them for not showing their vulnerability as adults, what else is to be concluded from this, but that we first make men defensive and then criticize them for being defensive.” ― Dr. Debi Smith, The Psychology of Men & Marriage

Can You Change a Man?

Husband Improvement - Part 3

As noted in my last post, many of a woman’s strategies for husband improvement backfire. Instead making the change(s) she desires, he becomes more defensive. Withdrawn. Perhaps angry and aggressive. “So does anything work to change a man?” you ask. Yes, and it’s a simple thing, really. I’m so excited that I finally figured it […]

Husband Improvement – Part 2

making sure your efforts don't backfire

Most women have developed a whole series of actions they believe will be motivating & encouraging for their men (husbands & sons, in particular). But most of the time, their guys stay the same … or actually get worse. So what exactly is it that women do that makes their men worse? less responsive? more […]

How to Change a Man

Husband Improvement - Part 1

You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will. It’s often more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project. But men are not projects. They are people. I don’t like to be […]