Visibly Shaken

a few moments can change everything

Beginning where we left off last time … No wonder she escaped so often … sometimes to neighbors’.  Sometimes to her only friend’s house.  Mostly to her church.  She felt safe at church.  She knew it’s where she belonged. When she was younger and lived on the other side of town, she’d ridden the Sunday […]

How Not to Fit In

Once upon a time ...

Every woman has a story.  Do you know hers?  Is it happy or sad?  glorious or painful?  How does her vulnerability show up today?  How do you respond to her vulnerability? She was 14 and alone. The kitchen sink was full of sewage. No one knew, but her … and the Lord. Junior high had […]

3 Great Reasons to Follow Your Husband

lessons from the dance floor

Why follow your husband? Growing up in a dysfunctional family taught me to pay close attention to my surroundings. I became a people pleaser to avoid the pain of anger, disappointment, and rejection. What was I really doing? I was manipulating everyone. My behavior was based on the most likely outcome, given what I had […]

The Beauty of Different

Men & Women are different. Always will be.

The following comment was recently posted in response to “embracing the dance” that I had shared on my social media pages: “I don’t agree with the premise that women want the men to lead.” I hear that a lot, actually. And I wouldn’t want anyone to spend time learning about something they are opposed to […]

Muscle Up & Be Tough

is that what women should be doing?

As noted in yesterday’s post, my father was absent from my life for 37 years, & my first two marriages ended in divorce. I believed all of that was my fault until I studied men as a Psychologist & Couples Counselor. I enthusiastically taught all that I was learning to any woman who was willing […]