Happy Couples

most of the time ...

In every relationship, partners continually make “bids” for one another’s attention, closeness, and reassurance through comments, questions, and gestures.

In successful marriages, spouses respond positively to these bids *86% of the time. That means you could totally miss 14% of the opportunities presented and still be pretty happy! How cool is that?

  • Through their words and/or their actions, they invite more connection.
  • That is, they communicate (with or without words):
    • “You matter to me.”
    • “I want to connect with you, too.”

In fact, successful couples make at least 20 (yes, twenty) positive remarks for every 1 (one) negative remark! If you do the math, that means 95% of their words are positive. Who saw that coming?

A tender answer turns away rage,
    but a prickly reply spikes anger. PROVERBS 15:1

To respond to a matter before you hear about it
    shows foolishness and brings shame. PROVERBS 18:13