The Nurture of a Man

For a better understanding of male nurture, let’s take a quick look at the second part of my last post. According to Attachment Theory, healthy human development relies heavily upon the processes of relationship, especially upon our primary need for emotional connection with someone who is available and responsive to our needs.

However, boys typically experience relational trauma that girls rarely do. Early on in life, it usually goes something like this …

As a toddler, he got picked on by another kid at the park …

• And His mom or dad held back to see what he would do.
• When he came to report the offense, he was required to provide explanation.
• His tears were something shameful.
• Big boys don’t cry, so stop whining and figure out what to do.
• He learned that he was on his own.
• He would have to solve his own problems somehow.