Most Christian women pray for their men, of course. But what is the content of your prayers? Are you just telling the Lord to help him to get his act together so your life will be easier? Or are you sincerely interested in meeting your man’s emotional needs?
If you want to pray differently – effectively – for your man, you’ll need to get into the cave with him. Spiritually and emotionally speaking, that is (this takes time with the Holy Spirit). Rather than verbally or invasively (which we do in our flesh) as noted in yesterday’s post about the Man Cave. For example, don’t insist he talk about his feelings. Because he may not fully understand them yet himself.
Learning to Pray Differently
The first steps are simple.
- Listen more.
- Talk less.
That alone will give him more space to talk – when he’s ready. And you’ll learn the most you can about him. He may not say much. But listen to his words. And pay attention to his actions. They often speak loudest – so they say.
The latter steps take time.
- Listen to the Holy Spirit.
- Pray according to God’s will.
Because you’re not a man, you’ll need a spirit of wisdom and revelation (Ephesians 1:17) that will enable you to pray for him in accordance with God’s will and perspective on the situation. Yes, you may have some great ideas, but this may not be the best time to share them with your man. Wait upon the Lord, trusting that He cares a lot more about what’s going on with your man than you do.
Keep the content of your prayers between you and the Lord. Your man’s vulnerability is not a subject you should be sharing with your mother, your sister, or your girlfriends.
I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know Him better. (Ephesians 1:17)
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22)