Making Sense of Men & Marriage

The wise woman builds her house,
    but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Proverbs 14:1, NIV

Wisdom. Confidence. Beauty. Influence.

For more than a decade, I have been teaching women about biblical, research-based ways to understand and partner with the men they love.

That task completed (like it ever could be, right?), I decided to conduct a survey to find out what my readers would like from me next.

In particular, I wondered how to encourage men to build satisfying relationships by leading with confidence & compassion.

The results surprised me.

One man I interviewed believed I should switch my focus to writing for men & suggested I begin by reading his favorite book about manhood.

I took his suggestion seriously.

But as I dove into the material, I realized the author had failed to address a man’s need for a woman. He placed the entire burden of EVERYTHING on himself ALONE, ignoring the partnership God created from the Beginning. GENESIS 2:18, 1 CORINTHIANS 11:9

That’s when I had one of those “suddenly” moments we read about in the Bible … the good kind … an instant awareness of amazing Truth as in LUKE 2:8-14. We need a Wise Woman’s Guide to Life and Love!

Suddenly I realized that most women – including myself – don’t fully understand our value & our purpose in today’s world.

Therefore, I decided to continue my mission as-is: to seek a deeper understanding of what it means to be a woman in relationship with a man from a Christian perspective.

Another surprise …

An awful lot of books written for women fail to (or inadequately) address our biblical partnership with men, especially with our husbands. And I had another “suddenly” moment. Women – in God’s original design – are way more important on this earth than we’ve been led to believe!

Wisdom itself is personified as a Woman!

Who knew, right? You did, actually.

  • What woman doesn’t want to be wise?
  • And what man doesn’t want a wise woman in his life?

In fact, women are a major theme in the Book of Proverbs. This verse jumped out at me first:

The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.


So the next thing we must ask is, “Who is this Wise Woman?”

  • How does she think differently than the foolish one?
  • How does she truly feel about her life & love?
  • What does she do differently daily?

Women’s Retreat | Orange County

What’s next?

Summer Women’s Retreat
August 12-14
Orange County

Registration Opens:
First Day of Summer: June 21

NOTE: Registration for the following event is closed.

married, engaged, dating, single, single again …
for every wise woman who wants to grow stronger & more confident

As women, we expect ourselves to do it all. perfectly. But none of us do, of course. Instead we get into the really bad habit of comparing ourselves, not only to others, but to the Ideal Woman. who. does. not. exist. She is a lie. Just so you know.

On the other hand, you are fearfully & wonderfully made … to impact history, much like Queen Esther in Biblical times.

No doubt, life is challenging. We are always adapting, in one direction or another. And because we get to choose our direction, we want to keep growing forward.

But we cannot do it alone. We need God. And we need one another.

So I’ve put together an intimate gathering of women who are just like you and me.

A place where we all can be, not only encouraged & uplifted, but also equipped & empowered.

Where we have the freedom to laugh, too!
Because finding your joy is good for your soul!

Be equipped with proven strategies that empower women to …

  1. build upon our God-given wisdom, strength & confidence as women
  2. enhance our ability to influence almost any man, of any age, to become a better version of himself
  3. enjoy a more satisfying & romantic lifestyle – no matter our current marital status!

Retreat Schedule

6:00 pm – 9:00 pm

    (Salad + Z’s Pizza)
    • Session 1
      Wisdom: Your God-Given Strength
Come early on Saturday, if you like, and spend a leisurely afternoon at beautiful South Coast Plaza.

10:00 am – 5:00 pm

    • Session 2
      Confidence: It’s All About You, Really
    • Session 3
      Beauty: Inspiring the Men in Your Life
    • Session 4
      Influence: The Power to Create
    • Conclusions

Your Registration includes:

  • 3 meals
  • 4 sessions
  • 1 Wise Women Workbook
  • Unlimited love & laughter!

Does not include travel expenses or overnight accommodations. If you live outside the area or just want to stay over, hotel info will be in your confirmation email!

If you have additional questions or need help with registration, please leave a message for me at 714.865.2164

Bring-A-Friend Discount

Everything is more fun with friends! We’ll be in a cozy atmosphere, so registration is limited. You won’t want to miss this unique opportunity! Register now!

What Others Are Saying

I’ve been telling so many women how your seminar & book saved my marriage. I’m so excited to share this life changing info with all the women in my life.


More to come! Save these *dates!

Autumn Women’s Retreat | November 11-13
(Registration Opens the First Day of Autumn: September 21)

Winter Couple’s Retreat 2022 | February 10-12
(Registration Opens the First Day of Winter: December 21)

* All dates are subject to change prior to Opening Registration.

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A Grateful Heart

“I thank God for leading us to you and your sincere, knowledgeable and anointed spirit and teaching! From you, we’ve each learned a lot about each other, about communication, and in better understanding each others’ emotions.

“More importantly, I believe your teaching (and your “person”) has been instrumental in each of us strengthening our relationships with God (most importantly, my Husband’s). We cannot be thankful enough for you saving our marriage (would seem almost impossible to most), and also to restoring it to much better than before the separation! We love you.”

~ Jackson & Chalaun

“My wife and I saw Dr. Debi after being married for 23 years and she brought us back from a place where, in my opinion divorce was inevitable, to a loving, caring, more understanding relationship. I’ve since learned how to communicate better, be more patient, and realize that the two different backgrounds we both were raised from has a huge impact on how we deal with things today. Dr. Debi is amazing how she’s able to translate what a man is trying to say/tell his wife and have it make sense. She has an extraordinary insight on men and how they speak and what they need in a relationship. After seeing Dr. Debi I feel much closer to my wife and realize she’s the most important thing I have in my life, and I will protect her to my last breath. Thanks again Dr. Debi.”

~ Jeff

“Dr. Debi is amazing! She is caring, understanding and highly educated. She has been given a gift of being able to understand men and provide tools for them to communicate their thoughts & feelings in a way that women can understand. It’s remarkable. She is objective and wants your marriage to be successful, she wants you to be madly in love and she is able to provide the tools to get you there. She was able to bring us back from honestly what both my husband and I thought was an inevitable divorce. We are truly happier and more in love than we have ever been in our 23 year marriage. We are so very thankful for Dr. Debi – she is a gift from God.”

~ Mrs. Jeff

“Dr. Debi helped me see that I had expectations for my husband based on my own expectations for myself. I expected my husband, who is mentally wired differently, raised differently, processes differently, communicates differently and is even biologically built differently, to act like me, a female. Once I was able to realize those differences, I was able to listen and learn what HE needed from me instead of what I thought he needed. This new outlook opened up new conversations which have led to a level of depth that neither of us knew existed. We are extremely grateful to Dr. Debi for showing us the tools we need to love each other, respect each other, and take care of each other in the way that Christ intended us to.”

~ Emily

“Last fall, we were ready to call it quits. We fought constantly. But because of your great contribution, we had a wonderful anniversary celebration this weekend. We are enjoying our marriage! And we are thinking of you with full gratitude. Thank you so much, Dr. Debi.”

~ Tommy & Lucinda

“Marriage – like dancing – is so much sweeter when partners are in sync. Thank you, Dr. Debi, for providing a fun, informative evening filled with insight into the men in our lives and ways to improve our relationships. I only wish I had been aware of these simple tools years ago. It would have made the bumpy dance floor of life so much smoother!”

~ Marilyn

“I’ve been telling so many women how your seminar & book saved my marriage. I’m so excited to share this life changing info with all the women in my life.”

~ Lisa

Dr. Debi’s Books

“Male-female relationships can be difficult. Both genders need understanding and skills to have great connections. Dr. Debi has written a great book with biblical understanding, research-based principles, and applicable skills. The material will make significant gains in any relationship. I highly recommend this book.” ~ Dr. John Townsend, Organizational Consultant, Psychologist, & Co-Author of Boundaries

“Dr. Debi has a superb ability to write in a way that feels conversational and casual, while weaving together psychological research, her Christian faith, and her love of dance. This book offers the metaphor of dance for marriage and romance in a way that will invigorate your love for your spouse or perhaps your hope for a loving spouse one day. She uncovers how Scripture is a love story and how God hopes for us to find love in our own lives. Dr. Debi shares her own stories along the way, helping you to connect with her heart that will make you want to be a “hopeful romantic” too! This book will be a delight for you to read if you have ever wished that your marriage could be as romantic as the movies. But she helps you see that a relationship can be even deeper than the movies if you really learn to love your spouse the way that God intended. I highly recommend this book!” ~ Dr. Curtis Lehmann, Clinical Psychologist

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Isaiah 43:1 But now, this is what The Lord says—    He who created you,    He who formed you:“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;    I have called you by name; you are Mine.” Join us at the Women’s Retreat!