A Quick Start Guide to Marriage

Solutions are usually simple,
but not always easy or obvious.

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Everyone who visits this page is looking for real answers to relationship issues. But not everyone is in the same place. So I’ve created a Library of QuickStart Guides to help you where you are. They’re all free.

Love & Respect

This free quiz is based on more than 30 years of marital research.


How does your attachment style affect your marriage today?


Psychology of Men & Marriage

Would you like to know what a joyful marriage could look like?


A free checklist to help you begin to understand & resolve conflict.


Why men stonewall and what you can do to make a difference.

3 Lies

Women have been deceived about men far too long. But no more.

So if woman was created for man, and if what we’re doing for him isn’t helping him become a better man, then maybe we should spend some time figuring out what it is that we should be doing. Wouldn’t you agree?

This 50-page workbook is based in behavioral psychology. Not exactly where you would expect an emotionally-focused Christian psychologist to begin in helping women learn to have more positive influence on their husbands, is it?

Includes the basic principles of operant conditioning, and 5 Challenges with 3 easy steps (Prepare, Experiment, Observe) that can be completed in less than 10 minutes each. How cool is that?

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The Truth About Love

Your love story matters.
It matters because it belongs to you.
It’s what you know and where you live.

Mostly, it matters to God.

What happened to you growing up matters because it’s how you learned about Life and Love and God.

Some of what you learned is true.
Some isn’t.

That’s what this book is about.

From what I know so far, most guys just want to be respected, appreciated, and accepted.

And you want to …

  • protect the woman you love,
  • provide for her, and
  • make her smile.

But your strategy fails.

What if there were better strategies? What if you could actually step into the role God has given you as leader of your family?

A Biblical Understanding of Love

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21

Using some of the most romantic words in the Bible, the Apostle Paul describes how we are to engage with one another in life and love. And research tells us why it works. How cool is that?

A Word of Caution

If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek guidance from a licensed Mental Health Professional who can help you decide what steps to take. If you are unsure about your relationship, you can download the Domestic Violence/Abuse Questionnaire (self-assessment) here. You do not need to provide your email address, and you will not be added to my mailing list. However, you may contact me if you like. I’d be happy to help you find a licensed Mental Health Professional in your area.