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An understanding of men necessarily includes a healthy respect for the Man Cave. But as women we typically have a really hard time with it. We have nothing to compare it to, so it simply doesn’t make sense to us. But it makes a lot of sense to men.
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A lifetime of experience impacts the way a man communicates. But we women often don’t understand a man’s silence. So the Man Cave feels like stonewalling at best – and abandonment at worst. But the Man Cave isn’t stonewalling at all. Unless a woman tries to force her way though. Then she’s got Double Trouble.
Simply knowing that her man is struggling is not enough, because that only serves to trigger a woman’s natural desire to reach out and encourage him … to get him to talk to her … to try to convince him that she is his Safe Haven.
Her efforts to connect will feel like an invasion to him … and/or add to his sense of guilt and shame that he hasn’t got a solution. Both of which will result in an immediate increase in his defensiveness – usually by strengthening his wall.
And being shut out makes her more anxious … worried about him … and about herself. It feels like the Beginning of the End to her, and she often doesn’t understand why.
Believe it or not, the initial purpose of the stonewall has nothing to do with hurting you. That’s not the purpose of the Man Cave either. Most women find it helpful to know the difference. Because it helps them know what to do – and find a better way to pray.
I’ll post more on this topic tomorrow. But as a first step toward better understanding, I invite you – if you haven’t already done so – to enroll in my free 15-day e-course now. Learn more here.
To answer before listening—
    that is folly and shame. (Proverbs 18:13)
Be strong and courageous. Trust the desire The Lord Himself put in YOUR heart. Don’t be afraid. Or discouraged. Don’t give up on your dream. Or yield to negativity. Don’t look back. Look ahead instead. Rejoice in Who God is. He’s with you always. Be encouraged. Today is not too late to embrace God’s Possibilities.
Here. Today. In the land of the living. It’s not too late. Nothing is impossible with God.
So stop letting the enemy talk you out of receiving God’s blessing. His “evidence” against you was voided at The Cross.
You still have your choice in this matter! Let your will determine your destiny.
None of us can succeed if we rely solely on our mind and emotions. Our thoughts and feelings change rapidly, often without reason. Go figure.
Choose to listen to your heart instead. You invited Jesus into your heart. So that’s where He dwells. And His Spirit testifies with your spirit: You are a Beloved Child of God.
Of all the people on the earth, we have Reason to be optimistic.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9)