A QuickStart Guide to Marriage

There’s nothing more beautiful than loving
someone who actually loves you back.

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That’s your dream, right? Everyone who visits this page is looking for real answers to relationship issues. But not everyone is in the same place. So I’ve created a Library of QuickStart Guides to help you where you are. They’re all free.

Love & Respect

This free quiz is based on more than 30 years of marital research.


How does your attachment style affect your marriage today?


Psychology of Men & Marriage

Would you like to know what a joyful marriage could look like?


A free checklist to help you begin to understand & resolve conflict.


Why men stonewall and what you can do to make a difference.

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Women have been deceived about men far too long.

NOTE: To add more value to your free QuickStart Guide, I will be following up with you via email. Please know that I hate spam, too. You can unsubscribe at any time.

The Truth About Love

Your love story matters.
It matters because it belongs to you.
It’s what you know and where you live.

Mostly, it matters to God.

What happened to you growing up matters because it’s how you learned about Life and Love and God.

Some of what you learned is true.
Some isn’t.

That’s what this book is about.

2022 Survey of Men’s Experience in Marriage

Guys, please help me decide what to include in the QuickStart Guide to Understanding Women … because honoring your experience and helping you build a better marriage are my highest priorities.

And because I want this book to be helpful to you and to other husbands, the content of this Manual for Men must be relevant to your real life experiences.

You do not need to enter your name or your email address to participate.

This survey has 20 multiple choice questions that should take about 10 minutes (or less) to complete. Of course, your participation is voluntary, and you may drop out at any point.

From what I know so far, most guys just want to be respected, appreciated, and accepted.

And you want to …

  • protect the woman you love,
  • provide for her, and
  • make her smile.

But your strategy fails.

What if there were better strategies? What if you could actually step into the role God has given you as leader of your family?

A Biblical Understanding of Love

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21

Using some of the most romantic words in the Bible, the Apostle Paul describes how we are to engage with one another in life and love. And research tells us why it works. How cool is that?

A Word of Caution

If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek guidance from a licensed Mental Health Professional who can help you decide what steps to take. If you are unsure about your relationship, you can download the Domestic Violence/Abuse Questionnaire (self-assessment) here. You do not need to provide your email address, and you will not be added to my mailing list. However, you may contact me if you like. I’d be happy to help you find a licensed Mental Health Professional in your area.