The Marriage Trap

Most couples have tried everything they can think of to fix their marriage.

They've read books, attended seminars, gone on retreats, and tried counseling.
But nothing has changed. In many ways, it feels like it's only getting worse.

If that describes you and/or your mate, the problem isn’t a lack of effort
— it’s that one essential piece of the puzzle has been missing: The Real You!

You matter! You are the missing piece! 

So how did you become the missing piece?

When things start to go sideways in your marriage, you each start changing yourselves in one of two ways.

— You feel frustrated and disappointed. So you keep trying to talk everything through to make it right again. It doesn't work, but you don't give up. You start losing your self-confidence. Everything you think, do, and feel centers around holding your marriage together. And the real you disappears.

— You feel confused and powerless. You're doing the best you can, but your mate isn't satisfied with your efforts. It isn't long before you start backing up. You get smaller and smaller in the relationship. Everything you think, do, and feel is about avoiding conflict. And the real you disappears. 

It happens to everyone at one time or another.
But when it becomes a way of life, you feel trapped in your marriage. 

You don't have to figure this out on your own.

I'm here to help you get back in the game — without all this frustration, disappointment, confusion, and hurt. 

You were in love with one another when this began.
But the person you were back then feels like a distant memory. 

The kind of coaching I offer isn't easy. It's hard work.

But the process is less like peeling an onion —
and more like watching a flower grow and blossom.