The Marriage Trap

Most couples have tried everything they can think of to fix their marriage.

They've read books, attended seminars, gone on retreats, and tried counseling.
But nothing has changed. In many ways, it feels like it's only getting worse.

If that describes you and/or your mate, the problem isn’t a lack of effort
— it’s that one essential piece of the puzzle has been missing: The Real You!

You matter! You are the missing piece! 

So how did you become the missing piece?

When things start to go sideways in your marriage, you each start changing yourselves in one of two ways.

— You feel frustrated and disappointed. So you keep trying to talk everything through to make it right again. It doesn't work, but you don't give up. You start losing your self-confidence. Everything you think, do, and feel centers around holding your marriage together. And the real you disappears.

— You feel confused and powerless. You're doing the best you can, but your mate isn't satisfied with your efforts. It isn't long before you start backing up. You get smaller and smaller in the relationship. Everything you think, do, and feel is about avoiding conflict. And the real you disappears. 

It happens to everyone at one time or another.
But when it becomes a way of life, you feel trapped in your marriage. 

You don't have to figure this out on your own.

I'm here to help you get back in the game — without all this frustration, disappointment, confusion, and hurt. 

You were in love with one another in the beginning.
But the person you were back then feels like a distant memory. 

The kind of coaching I offer isn't easy. It's hard work.

But the process is less like peeling an onion —
and more like watching a flower grow and blossom. 

My wife and I are so appreciative to have found Dr. Debi.

We had been going to counseling on an off for years — with lots of different therapists and techniques. Nothing compares to the approach that Dr. Debi provides. She gave us direct and instantly useful advice.

She helped me see how much love my wife and I have for each other in a way that is consistent and tangible — and taught us to recognize the critical moments that had been causing so much pain. 

Now we have the tools to fix the miscommunication that had plagued our relationship. I will be forever grateful. — Andrew

Finally, Something That Works

“We're so happy we found something that actually works for us! … Nothing helped us escape the trap we'd built for ourselves. But Dr. Debi was able to help us recognize the core of our disconnect, and we are thoroughly enjoying the process.” — Dave & Riëtte

Saved and Strengthened Our Marriage

“We thank God for leading us to you, Dr. Debi! … We cannot thank you enough for saving our marriage (which would seem almost impossible to most) and restoring it to something even better than before the separation!” — Jackson & Chalaun

You found your way here for a reason.

Life & love are really hard at times.
My heart goes out to you because I understand hurt, frustration, and confusion.

I've been there myself — and I've been walking through tough times with couples for almost 30 years — first as a Clinical Psychologist, now as a Professional Marriage Educator and Couples Coach. 

Most people in unhappy marriages double down on
what they're already doing — and life just gets worse. 

If — despite your best efforts — nothing is improving,
it's time to do something else instead. 

If you're ready for different results, let's talk about what that could look like for you. 
Book a private, paid consultation via Zoom — solo or with your mate.