My Journey

How It All Began

My dad was Pentecostal, and my mom was Baptist. Their marriage lasted 9 years.

And ended before I was 3 years old.

Mom, my older brother, and I moved into a house between the First Baptist Church and the Nazarene Church, and my mom chose the Nazarene.

So I was raised a Nazarene by a Baptist mom.

I married a Lutheran when we were both 18 and became United Methodist. Our marriage ended after 16+ years.

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Yet the Lord has always kept me in His Heart
… and in His plans.

Jesus knew I’d never given my own heart to any man.

God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him.” GENESIS 2:18

That is, until the Summer of 2011.

And that’s when everything changed for me.

Throughout my life, I’d experienced painful relationships. Unsafe relationships. Manipulative relationships.

It made me an empathic counselor
… with a theory.

But that Cinderella Summer brought Fresh Revelation about The Wonder of a Man & The Goodness of God.

No, my life did not become suddenly smooth. In many ways, it became quite the opposite. And it’s still pretty bumpy.


Because the enemy of our souls doesn’t want any of us to live like we belong to Heaven.


So every Promise, every Dream, every Hope
has been contested by the enemy.

And The Lord refines me … in places I often don’t realize need refining.
I give Him my vulnerability. He gives me Something Better instead.

I’m still learning to fight the good fight.
To use my Spiritual Armor. To realize the Victory
over sin and death that Jesus already won on The Cross.

And I know that if He is still helping me, He will gladly help, too.
Because Our Stories matter to Him more than we realize!


Dr. Debi Smith earned her Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) at Rosemead School of Psychology-Biola University. She is a Clinical Psychologist licensed to practice in the State of California.

An author and former Professor, she loves to share her knowledge so Christian couples and singles can learn to enjoy a deeper relationship with Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, as well as with one another.