Let’s Talk about Men

Men are puzzling creatures.

As little boys, they are cute. charming. adventurous. funny.

However, our perspective changes as they become men.

  • Their behavior doesn’t make sense.
  • We wonder what they are thinking.
  • Why do they disconnect?

What bugs you most about men?

Post your comments below, and let’s talk.

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Choose life!

The choice is yours. The small decisions you make every day. All of them make a difference. Pay attention to where you are, what you are thinking, and what you are doing.

Then choose life. Often. Always.

This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you Life and Death, Blessing and Curses.

Now choose Life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love The Lord your God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him.

For The Lord is your Life …

Deuteronomy 30:19-20

Taking the Lead

Are you a Christian man?

God created you to take the lead in your family.
That does not mean you get to steamroll everyone.

It does mean that you get to learn how to be more confident, compassionate, & tenderhearted toward your wife and/or kids.

  1. Be confident in who God created you to be on this earth. You have to talk with Him to know that.
  2. Be compassionate as you gently teach what you are actively [currently] learning from God Himself.
  3. A truly great, effective leader is tenderhearted in that you listen first. Otherwise, you are likely to solve the wrong problem, eh?

If you are married

Be a good husband to your wife. Honor her. Delight in her. She is different than you, to be sure. But you share equally in the grace of life because of Christ. Treat her well so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 3

If you have kids …

Fathers, don’t frustrate your children with no-win scenarios. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master. Ephesians 6:4

At the right time

Esther 4:12-14

When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”

You are here for a reason. This is the right time. Never give up.

Do you know how to fix your husband?

Does he have a problem with anger? Or does he avoid emotional intimacy? Or both?

If you have either of these in your marriage, you have probably done everything you can think of to fix your spouse.

But here’s the deal.

You cannot fix another person.

You cannot fix him, and he cannot fix you.

But that’s what most of us try to do. We try to change one another. We judge what we see and deem it “wrong.” Even if we do know exactly what the other person needs, we are still powerless to do anything about it. Because change is the domain of the Holy Spirit.

You choose whether to live under the curse.

When Eve and Adam ate the forbidden fruit, they both faced death for the first time. Spiritual and relational death. A curse was pronounced over each of them, as well as over their relationship with one another.

  • She would bear children in pain.
  • He would struggle to make a living from the earth.
  • Her desire would be for her husband: to fix, manage, and control him.
  • He would rule over her: that is, resist her efforts to rule him.

Sound familiar?

You can choose Freedom in Christ.

Jesus didn’t die to set God’s people free from the Romans (other people). He died to set us free from our own sin. So that we could walk with Him. Talk with Him. Learn from Him. Grow with Him.

So if you want your husband to change, follow the path of freedom and allow His Holy Spirit work in you instead.

  • Let Him teach you about your own value and show you how much You mean to Him.
  • You’ll be less likely to depend on your husband alone to meet your emotional needs.
  • And you just might inspire your husband to be a better man. How cool would that be?

p.s. What’s sauce for the goose, is sauce for the gander, guys!

If you want your wife to change, follow the path of freedom and allow His Holy Spirit to work in you instead.

  • Let Him teach you how to focus your anger in the right place.
  • You’ll be less defensive and better able to show up for intimate conversations.
  • You just might help equip your wife to be a better woman. How cool would that be?

References: Genesis 3, John 3:16