Biblical Relationship Education & Coaching
This quiz will help you assess how well you deal with conflict and whether you are able to make repairs to your relationship during and/or after an argument.
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Men are puzzling creatures.
As little boys, they are cute. charming. adventurous. funny.
However, our perspective changes as they become men.
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The choice is yours. The small decisions you make every day. All of them make a difference. Pay attention to where you are, what you are thinking, and what you are doing.
Then choose life. Often. Always.
This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you Life and Death, Blessing and Curses.
Now choose Life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love The Lord your God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him.
For The Lord is your Life …
Deuteronomy 30:19-20
Are you a Christian man?
God created you to take the lead in your family.
That does not mean you get to steamroll everyone.
It does mean that you get to learn how to be more confident, compassionate, & tenderhearted toward your wife and/or kids.
Be a good husband to your wife. Honor her. Delight in her. She is different than you, to be sure. But you share equally in the grace of life because of Christ. Treat her well so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 3
Fathers, don’t frustrate your children with no-win scenarios. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master. Ephesians 6:4
But now, this is what The Lord says—
He who created you,
He who formed you:
“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have called you by name; you are Mine.”
A wise woman builds her house.
He has sent Me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim the year of The Lord’s favor,
to bestow on her a crown of beauty
instead of ashes.
Enlarge the place of your tent,
stretch your tent curtains wide,
do not hold back;
lengthen your cords,
strengthen your stakes.
When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”
Does he have a problem with anger? Or does he avoid emotional intimacy? Or both?
If you have either of these in your marriage, you have probably done everything you can think of to fix your spouse.
But here’s the deal.
You cannot fix another person.
You cannot fix him, and he cannot fix you.
But that’s what most of us try to do. We try to change one another. We judge what we see and deem it “wrong.” Even if we do know exactly what the other person needs, we are still powerless to do anything about it. Because change is the domain of the Holy Spirit.
When Eve and Adam ate the forbidden fruit, they both faced death for the first time. Spiritual and relational death. A curse was pronounced over each of them, as well as over their relationship with one another.
Sound familiar?
Jesus didn’t die to set God’s people free from the Romans (other people). He died to set us free from our own sin. So that we could walk with Him. Talk with Him. Learn from Him. Grow with Him.
So if you want your husband to change, follow the path of freedom and allow His Holy Spirit work in you instead.
If you want your wife to change, follow the path of freedom and allow His Holy Spirit to work in you instead.
References: Genesis 3, John 3:16