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January 9, 2020January 9, 2020

A Different Man

Do you wish you were married to a different man? Or could change the one you have? You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will. It’s actually more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project.

But men are not projects. They are people.

I don’t like to be the bearer of bad tidings, ladies, but God only created one perfect man thus far. And he’s required nearly six decades to refine!

On the Bright Side, however, if the Lord is doing such a great job on this one, I believe He can do the same with your guy! Your man can be so much more, and you can actually help him become Your Fearless Leader in the Dance of Romance!

Simply put, it’s a woman’s job to love her man and pray for him. It’s God’s job to make him grow … and according to His plan, not hers. PROVERBS 3:5

Your man wants to be your Leader in the Dance of Romance … to protect you and to guide you and to hold you … to choreograph the Dance to maximize your pleasure in being with him.

But much of the time we’re shooting ourselves in the foot by doing all the things that don’t work to change him … instead of doing things that do work to change him … things that he actually wants you to do to shape his behavior! Go figure.

You can learn what works … and unlearn what doesn’t!

January 5, 2020

Secrets to Becoming a Great Follow

A great swing dancer knows the secrets to becoming a great follow. A while back, I taught a class for lady swing dancers in Uptown Whittier, California. We had a good time exploring ways we can help our dance partners – and husbands – become better leads.

Wish I could say I am the Best Follow Ever, but I’m not.
I’ve made way too many mistakes. Especially with The Cute Boy.
But he is always very forgiving and knows that I’m still learning, too.

Perhaps it’s time to re-read my own book, eh?

NOTE: The Lovely Ladies pictured here with me were Gorgeous Winners of our door prizes: My book, Ephesians 5 Romance, and Free Dance Lessons.

The Dance Floor is a Great Place to Practice the Secrets to Becoming a Great Follow

A man and a woman dancing together in three-quarter time is the best metaphor for – and experience of – Romance.

In one of my favorite waltz videos, so many couples are on the dance floor it’s hard to imagine how they keep twirling around without crashing into one another. That is, unless you realize that each pair has only one leader.

The man’s job is to protect his partner from other couples on the floor, and to guide her steps as they swish and swirl in time to the music. If the woman criticizes what he’s doing or starts to pull him in a different direction, it’ll be virtually impossible for him to take responsibility for the dance.

He takes the lead. She follows.

He guides and protects her.
She influences him, even as she admires him … and makes him look good to anyone who’s watching.

Paul put it this way: Wives, understand & support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to His Church, not by domineering but by cherishing. … Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church — a love marked by giving, not getting. EPHESIANS 5

How cool is that?

December 26, 2019December 26, 2019

Your Love Story Matters

Your love story matters.

It matters because it belongs to you.

It’s what you know and where you live.

Mostly, it matters to God.

What happened to you growing up matters because it’s how you learned about Life and Love … and God.

Your story has taught you a lot about who you are, and it’s taught you about other people.

Some of what you’ve learned is true. Some isn’t.
That’s what this website is about.

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” ~ John 8:32

Your Love Story Matters to God. Always.

I know the plans I have for you. They will stretch you. They are stretching you now. My plans are for your good and the only way you will be truly happy. Trust me. You are more dear and precious to me than you realize. I put those desires in your heart, and I am the only one who can fulfill them. Walk closely to me. You cannot screw this up. You cannot even delay it when you become fearful because I’m at work in your anxious times, too. Do not let shame rule over you. Do not listen to those lies. I will turn your mourning into dancing. You will face challenges, and you will overcome them all. Watch me. Watch what I do next. You’re going to love this one!

Lord, you alone are my portion and my cup;
you make my lot secure.
The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places;
surely I have a delightful inheritance.

I will praise the Lord, who counsels me;
even at night my heart instructs me.
I keep my eyes always on the Lord.

With Him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. ~ Psalm 16:5-8

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