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The Grace of Life

Thank You, Jesus, for what You have done and for what You are doing through The Holy Spirit in us. I believe everything You’ve said to me. Help my unbelief.

One issue I’ve always been unclear on is how much is my responsibility and how much is Yours.

You get the Lion’s share. You determine the Path and the Pace. My job is to follow and keep in step with you.

That means I get to focus on being held by You.
To feel the Rhythm and Passion of Your Heartbeat.

To listen for Your Whispers.

And prepare to be surprised by what You say to me.
That is, not assume I know where we’re going and take off without You.

I wonder what this Process is like for a Man.

Much the same as it is for a Woman, I think, with the added
responsibility to translate Your Leadership into the Here-and-Now.

A man leads his Woman as You lead him:
with Compassion, Tenderness, and Confidence.

He submits to You. And she submits to him.
Knowing You’re at work in both.

You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of The Grace of Life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)

Learn more about The Grace of Life in these online articles:

Marital Harmony
by Pastor John MacArthur
Heirs Together of the Grace of Life
by Pastor Jack Hayford

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Lessons from the Dance Floor

submission

Whether you’re young or old, you need to learn about mutual submission in Christian marriage: It’s the Beauty of the Dance of Romance!

It’s the guy’s role to make the dance an enjoyable experience for his girl. So he needs to pay close attention to what she likes and what she isn’t comfortable with.

But he can’t take responsibility for pleasing you if you’re always one step ahead of him. You have to let him lead.

That is, your goal is to get into sync with his rhythm. And you do that for one reason:

It will build his confidence as your leader.

No, he won’t get it right all the time. And neither will you. You’re both learning.

If he’s your husband – or you want him to be – it’s even more important that you learn how to encourage his leadership, especially when he’s off a bit. You could give him feedback, but he can tell by the expression on your face when he’s off. He’s way more sensitive to that than you realize.

The best part, however, is that when he’s “off” you get the opportunity to pray for him and to trust the Lord, Who is responsible for leading your lead.

How cool is that?

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A Woman’s Influence

a womans influence

For some time now, I have believed that we women have far more influence than many of us realize. Many words have been used to describe this phenomenon. But, simply put, men cannot resist us. At least, not for very long.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved
the church and gave himself up for her …
                         ~ Ephesians 5:25

When you understand how much you mean to him and know how to fulfill your purpose in his life, any man with reasonable emotional health responds naturally with all the love and tenderness you desire from him.

[callout]Yes, for those of you who are wondering,
most men are reasonably healthy.[/callout]

They just express it differently than we do.
And isn’t that what draws us to them in the first place?
What we love so much about them? What we adore?

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

  • What methods do most women use to influence men today?
  • Do men respond well to their woman’s influence?
  • Or do they tune her out?

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