In the beginning God created them male and female … in His image. GENESIS
Personalized attention is the most effective way to upgrade how you apply Biblical principles (values) and the findings of scientific research to everyday life.
Would Professional Coaching be the best option for you?
Relationship Help that is Biblically-Sound & Research-Based: For Individuals and/or Couples!
My Professional Coaching Programs provide an Advanced / Accelerated Approach to deepening your connection and building a more satisfying relationship.
But it’s not for everyone.
Find out if you qualify.
Most of our difficulties begin with miscommunication in relationships.
Learning to listen and listening to learn are essential skills in any relationship. But it can be especially difficult when one speaks “male” and the other speaks “female.”
Get help from a “professional translator” to help him/her understand what you said.
- Stop the negative cycle.
- Resolve differences.
- Get what you want.
Fact: Men and women are different.
Always have been. Always will be.
Your DNA set the stage at conception. Your biology as male (XY) or female (XX) affects how you experience life from your very beginning to now, which in turn has given you a unique world view and very specific beliefs about what it means to be a healthy human being.
Your gender differences are the primary reason you married in the first place! So you need to understand, value, and appreciate those precious differences. Unfortunately, in most all cases, a therapist won’t even help you recognize the basic facts. Go figure.
Women have been taught …
- to express their feelings,
- to create connection with words,
- and to believe everyone else should, too.
Men have been taught …
- to avoid messy emotions,
- to solve problems instead of talking,
- and to believe everyone else should, too.
Are you ready to explore and perhaps even embrace a new mindset?
Learning also means unlearning. And some folks just aren’t ready to let go of their faulty thinking, even if it’s not getting them what they want in their relationship. So they keep doing the same thing over and over, and getting the same result.
You’ve heard that one before, haven’t you?
Check out my YouTube Channel, and if you find yourself saying, “Yeah, but …” or getting angry, then you might not be ready … at least not yet.
But if my YouTube videos arouse your curiosity, you might be ready for change.
Coaching based in psychological research and Biblical principles will increase your understanding of yourself and your mate, and provide you with new options.
You will learn …
- to reclaim your God-given identity, rather than default to defenses
- to discover your life purpose and how it relates to the one you love
- how the opposite sex operates: what motivates and what destroys
Women benefit from …
- using true strength for positive influence
- less anxiety and pressure to perfection
- a deeper sense of their value as women
Men benefit from …
- leading with confidence and compassion
- less frustration and feeling powerless
- being the hero God created them to be
A 12-Week Accelerated or Advanced Coaching Program requires that you …
- be open to new, more satisfying experiences
- be able to refrain from blaming your partner for everything
- desire a deeper understanding of your mate’s experience, as well as your own
- be willing to examine your own contributions (both good and bad) to the relationship
- be willing to experiment with new ways of responding, then evaluating their effectiveness
Then what you do with what you learn will be up to you.
- Coaching is not psychotherapy, which is about healing (focused on your past).
- Instead, coaching is about growth (focused on your future).
What’s it like to work with Dr. Debi?
“My wife and I are so appreciative to have found Dr. Debi for marriage help. We had been going on an off for years with many different therapists and techniques. Nothing compares to the approach that Dr. Debi provided. I had always found it hard after previous therapy sessions to remember the guidance. It seemed so complex and elusive to embrace.
“Dr. Debi gave us direct and instantly useful advise. She laid an impressionable foundation that helped me see how much love my wife and I had for each other in a way that was consistent and tangible. She taught us to recognize the critical moments that caused caused us so much pain.
“Thanks to Dr. Debi we now have “tools” to battle the rampant miscommunication that had plagued our relationship. I will be forever grateful.” – Andrew
“My wife and I saw Dr. Debi after being married for 23 years and she brought us back from a place where, in my opinion divorce was inevitable, to a loving, caring, more understanding relationship. I’ve since learned how to communicate better, be more patient, and realize that the two different backgrounds we both were raised from has a huge impact on how we deal with things today. Dr. Debi is amazing how she’s able to translate what a man is trying to say/tell his wife and have it make sense. She has an extraordinary insight on men and how they speak and what they need in a relationship. After seeing Dr. Debi I feel much closer to my wife and realize she’s the most important thing I have in my life, and I will protect her to my last breath. Thanks again Dr. Debi.” ~ Jeff
“Dr. Debi is amazing! She is caring, understanding and highly educated. She has been given a gift of being able to understand men and provide tools for them to communicate their thoughts & feelings in a way that women can understand. It’s remarkable. She is objective and wants your marriage to be successful, she wants you to be madly in love and she is able to provide the tools to get you there. She was able to bring us back from honestly what both my husband and I thought was an inevitable divorce. We are truly happier and more in love than we have ever been in our 23 year marriage. We are so very thankful for Dr. Debi – she is a gift from God.” ~ Mrs. Jeff
“I thank God for leading us to you and your sincere, knowledgeable and anointed spirit and teaching! From you, we’ve each learned a lot about each other, about communication, and in better understanding each others’ emotions. More importantly, I believe your teaching (and your “person”) has been instrumental in each of us strengthening our relationships with God (most importantly, my Husband’s). We cannot be thankful enough for you saving our marriage (would seem almost impossible to most), and also to restoring it to much better than before the separation! We love you.” ~ Jackson & Chalaun
“Dr. Debi helped me see that I had expectations for my husband based on my own expectations for myself. I expected my husband, who is mentally wired differently, raised differently, processes differently, communicates differently and is even biologically built differently, to act like me, a female. Once I was able to realize those differences, I was able to listen and learn what HE needed from me instead of what I thought he needed. This new outlook opened up new conversations which have led to a level of depth that neither of us knew existed. We are extremely grateful to Dr. Debi for showing us the tools we need to love each other, respect each other, and take care of each other in the way that Christ intended us to.” ~ Emily
“Last fall, we were ready to call it quits. We fought constantly. But because of your great contribution, we had a wonderful anniversary celebration this weekend. We are enjoying our marriage! And we are thinking of you with full gratitude. Thank you so much, Dr. Debi.” ~ T&L
Coaching isn’t for everyone.
Coaching is not for everyone.
Find out if you qualify.
Who is Dr. Debi? Allow me to introduce myself.
The best way to get to know me is to talk with me. You will discover that I am passionate about helping Christian couples and single adults find more effective ways to apply biblical principles (values) and the findings of scientific research to everyday life.
- As a mother of 3 sons, I developed intense interest in and a unique expertise in the Psychology of Men and Marriage.
- I worked with men, women, couples, and families in Orange, Los Angeles, and Ventura counties in California for 25 years before closing my Clinical Psychology Practice in August 2021.
- I helped launch numerous Marriage Programs at local churches, training pastors, marriage mentor couples, and mental health professionals who needed help learning to work more effectively with couples.
- Now living in Central Texas, I am dedicated to teaching and coaching around the world.
My Education & Teaching Experience
I earned my Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Psychology at MidAmerica Nazarene University, and my Master of Arts (MA) and Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) at Biola University. I also taught courses at both universities, as well as at Azusa Pacific University from 2002 to 2010.