When God Answers Your Prayers

I have never bought a lottery ticket. But I know folks who buy them every week. They’re hoping it will be their Big Break.

No doubt you’ve heard stories about Lottery Winners.

Most of them end up back where they began, no matter how much they won.

Why is that?

The short answer is that they didn’t change anything about how they lived.

They weren’t prepared for the financial windfall.

They continued with the same habits and with the same mindset. And they soon ended up back in a familiar place.

Escaping from Egypt

The same thing happened to the Children of Israel. They’d been enslaved in Egypt for as long as they could remember. And they never stopped praying that God would bring deliverance. And He did. Through a totally unexpected source.

Moses himself didn’t see it coming. But he couldn’t avoid the unmistakable voice of God (Exodus 3). After much ado (Exodus 7), Pharaoh consented to release them all. Yes, they did win the lottery – proverbially so, however.

Can you imagine?

God had great plans for His people. While they were suffering in slavery, just hoping to make it through the day, The Lord was telling them of Bigger Plans:

“When the Lord your God brings you into the land he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, to give you—a land with large, flourishing cities you did not build, houses filled with all kinds of good things you did not provide, wells you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves you did not plant—then when you eat and are satisfied, be careful that you do not forget the Lord, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.” (Deuteronomy 6:10-12)

They headed for the Promised Land with His assurance. But they soon lost sight of it all. They criticized Moses. And wanted to go back to Egypt.

Prepare to be surprised.

God hears all your prayers. But are you ready for His answer?

A friend of mine prayed for her husband for 5 years. When her prayers were answered suddenly, she lost her bearings. She was so used to the way their relationship had been that she actually considered leaving him!

She hadn’t considered what a change in him would require in her.

Are you prepared for answered prayer?

  1. Are you constantly complaining?
  2. Or celebrating the possibilities of a beautiful relationship?
  3. How will you be different when God does answers your prayers?

As you pray, you can start your own upgrade today!

  1. Change your self-talk. Listen to what you’re saying to yourself about your mate.
  2. Believe the best. Because assuming the worst will always keep you stuck.
  3. Pray for you. An upgraded husband will need an upgraded wife.

Day 3: Getting to Know You

getting to know you

We used to sing in Sunday School: “Everybody ought to know who Jesus is.” Although most of us have head knowledge about Jesus and believe His is the Son of God, many of us don’t really know how to connect with Him.

[callout]I’m still getting to know who Jesus is.
And for Jesus, it’s all about connection.[/callout]

Connection is equally important for you and your mate.

When I was a professor, I would tell my students not to look for the perfect person to marry. But to marry the one person they would be willing to spend a lifetime getting to know. Because it takes that long. And when you stop trying to get to know your mate, you have already disconnected.

Disconnection occurs long before conflict.

Dr. Sue Johnson, noted marital therapist and researcher, affirms that it isn’t conflict that causes problems in a marriage, … it’s the lack of connection.

  • At what point did you disconnect?
  • And what are God’s thoughts?
  • Have you asked Him?

In the beginning, God created us
and established his own particular order for things.

He knew it’d go sideways. No big surprise to Him that we’d have trouble with obedience. That is, we’d want life on our own terms … until we could fully comprehend the Beauty of a life lived on His terms.

At the core, we are …

  • disconnected from God.
  • disconnected from what He designed us to be and enjoy.
  • and disconnected from who we are and who our mate is to us.

Our Father is motivated by Love. Indeed, He is Love.

And in His Love, He says …

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord,
“plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future.
Then you will call on me and come and pray to me,
and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me
when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found
… and will bring you back to the place
from which I carried you into exile.”
(Jeremiah 29:11-14)

Here are some “connection” questions to ask The Lord …

  1. How do you see me? Wait for His answer. Then write it down.
  2. What do you want for me? Wait for His answer. Then write it down.
  3. How can I partner with You to become the person You had in mind when you created me? Wait for His answer. Then write it down.

NOTE: You probably won’t get all your answers in one sitting. But rest assured that The Lord loves to talk to his children (John 10:27). So if He doesn’t answer initially, you can be sure He will eventually.

Day 2: Dancing the “Paradigm Shift”

paradigm shift

I grew up in Kansas. Where there are four distinct seasons. During the summer of 1996, I moved to California to attend graduate school. Same country. Very different state. I loved the odd-looking plants (like oleander and palm trees) … and all the swimming pools.

It was already late August. Fall was not far away. And I was looking forward to enjoying my new apartment’s amenities as long as I could. So I asked the manager when the pool closed.

She replied, “At 11pm.”

It took a minute to realize she’d answered a different question than the one I’d asked. Back home, the pools close on Labor Day.

That was the first of many paradigm shifts in getting to know California.

Getting to know God requires MORE THAN ONE paradigm shift.

[callout]We all became Christians with only a partial understanding of who God is.[/callout]

As noted yesterday …

  • My mom didn’t contribute much. I don’t remember ever hearing her pray. But she did read her Bible a lot. She kept it by her rocking chair and underlined verses. Sadly, that was her only testimony.
  • Thankfully our ultra conservative church provided the Rules for Living. And we had the world’s absolute best youth group. We went roller skating, camping, boating, and on hayrides.

But my church also taught me …

  • that you could mess up things with God.
  • so you need to “come forward” and “get right with God.”
  • and that the being a Christian meant you lived with guilt and shame.

Does any of that match your experience?

If so, here are some ways to open yourself up to Who God really is …

  1. Talk to Him. He’s Very Approachable. And He doesn’t expect perfection. Just a conversation. (Jeremiah 33:3, Hebrews 4:16)
  2. Read the Bible. Don’t merely accept others’ interpretations as the Absolute Truth. Seek to know the Truth that will set you free for yourself. And if it doesn’t set you free, it isn’t the Truth. (John 8:32)
  3. Surround yourself with people who are kind. And full of love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23).

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  1. How different would your life be if you fully understood the Lord’s love?
  2. What would change about your outlook for your relationship?
  3. How might your relationship be different?