You’re not alone

The Lord knew we’d mess things up. That’s why He had a plan from The Beginning. He knew that, left to ourselves – that is, in our flesh – we’d become self-focused. Try to manipulate and control life – and other people – to meet our own needs.

Yet your current needs are normal and healthy.

Because The Lord Himself gave you those needs. And He wants to fulfill them. In fact, He gave His Son so that your needs could be fully met through Him.

His plan for your life is mystical, to be sure. You’re not of this world.
And it can seem magical at times. But God doesn’t do magic.
He’s very practical and loves the everyday details.

The most important example is a man’s need for companionship. (Genesis 2:18)

  • From a fleshly perspective, a man may use a woman to meet his own needs. And take from her what he wants without regard for who God created her to become as someone created in His likeness.
  • However, a man who is walking in right relationship with God needs a woman to whom he can give all the love he receives from The Lord. That is …
  • A man needs someone to adore.
  • A Special Someone to love outside himself.
  • Loving her keeps him from sinking into perpetual sadness.
    … and/or from becoming a domineering jerk.

The Love a man receives through his relationship with Christ is mystical. He is in Christ, and Christ is in him. That’s God with us, to be sure!

And as a man initiates and demonstrates that Love in his “real-life” relationship with his bride, it becomes the best, most practical display of Jesus‘ Love for His Bride.

Furthermore, woman’s response to her man’s Love
is just as important as her response to Christ.

To be continued …

All this took place to fulfill what The Lord had said through the prophet: “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a Son, and they will call him Immanuel” which means “God with us.” (Matthew 1:22-23)

True Love is a Gift

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 4:8a)


True Love doesn’t demand a return.
It only hopes for one.


The Truth about Love: You are Fearfully and Wonderfully made.

Both your biology and your upbringing have shaped who are so far.
And Jesus is growing you to be more like Him everyday.
So don’t let anybody else change you!

And, please, don’t you dare try to change Your Beloved! All of his (her)
likes and dislikes, gifts and talents, strengths and sensitivities
are parts of his (her) Totally Amazing Personality!

Love him (her) just as he (she) is. Jesus does.
Then if Your Beloved needs an upgrade, trust The Lord to do it.

Are you dreaming?

I watch White Christmas multiple times every December. My favorite scene is Phil and Judy (Danny Kaye and Vera Ellen) in The Best Things Happen While You Dance.

Theirs is the secondary romance of the movie, which is really about Bob and Betty (Bing Crosby and Rosemary Clooney). It’s a classic story of boy meets girl, boy gets girl, boy loses girl, and has to win her back.


Actually, Bob didn’t have to lose his girl at all!
But somebody messed up.


Unfortunately, Betty thinks it was Bob. But it was really her own failure to clarify what was happening with him. Instead she jumped to her conclusions and messed it up.

To answer before listening—
    that is folly and shame.

(Proverbs 18:13)

Lots of folks believe relationships go sideways because the guy messed up. In fact, many men believe that about themselves. But it’s just not true!

Often it’s the girl who’s got it wrong.

Women make a lot of assumptions  filling in “the blanks” with thoughts that paint a negative picture. How wrong is that?

Of course, Bob and Betty get back together in the end  dancing cheek-to-cheek and pants-to-pants.

Couples in the movies always do. And so do couples who are having trouble with their relationship. When they listen to one another and learn the Truth.

If you’d like help making your dream come true, let me know!
Because Real Life Romance is the Best Kind of Romance!

[youtube id=”5fwuzeze0nw”]

Save