Category:Understanding Women

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How to Deal with a Difficult Person

Not long ago, I spent the better part of 18 months in a highly toxic environment. The woman in charge was fearful. Angry. Tight-fisted. Controlling. Micro-manager to the max.

She was an emotional bully & my growing disdain for her was understandable.

That is, until the Holy Spirit reminded me of Jesus’ words …

“Love your enemies & pray for those who persecute you.” MATTHEW 5:44

So I began to pray for her. Not because I’m all that great.
But because I was all that desperate.

“Lord, I love WhatsHerName. Please bless her & cause her business to grow. Bring peace to her & her environment so that others will be blessed as well.”

I wish The Lord would have answered my prayers as prayed.
Instead, He chose to change something inside me:

  1. My compassion grew as my frustration & bitterness melted like wax.
  2. My strength grew as the enemy of my soul lost his foothold.

I’ve moved on. But I’m eternally grateful for the experience.

  • Because it taught me a priceless lesson.
  • About the beauty of obedience to The Lord.
  • And the mysterious ways He makes us more like Him.

So pray for those who are giving you a hard time.

Because that reveals your identity as a child of your Heavenly Father, Who is kind to everyone. He brings the sunrise to warm & rainfall to refresh whether a person does what is good or evil.

  • What reward do you deserve if you only love the loveable?
  • Don’t even the greatly-dreaded tax collectors do that?
  • Why limit your kindness to just your friends?
Instead, let The Lord grow His Perfect Love within you. MATTHEW 5:43-48
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How to Change a Man

How to change a man

You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will.

It’s often more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project.

But men are not projects. They are people.

I don’t like to be the bearer of bad tidings, ladies, but God only created one perfect man so far … and it took Him nearly 60 years to refine him.  Okay. Forgive me for bragging about the Love of My Life. I admit he’s not really perfect. He’s just close enough to perfect for me. [Queue country music …]

On the Bright Side, however, if the Lord is doing such a great job on My Cute Boy, I believe He can do the same with yours!  Your man can be so much more, and you can actually help him become Your Fearless Leader in the Dance of Romance!

Your man wants to be your Leader in the Dance of Romance … to protect you, guide you, and hold you … to choreograph Your Dance to maximize your pleasure in being with him.

Women have so much influence over a man’s life, and we don’t even realize it! Because much of the time we’re shooting ourselves in the foot. Doing all the things that make him worse (more defensive) … instead of doing things to encourage his self-improvement … things that he actually wants you to do that will naturally shape his behavior in a positive direction!

Learn more about how to change your man here.

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How to Stop the Lies

There’s a Love Story inside each of us. Our Heavenly Father put it there Himself.  However, the father of lies has been messing with our minds since … well, for a very long time.  He tells us that we’re not lovable and/or that other people don’t or won’t love us.  And he gets away with it for awhile, mostly because we don’t know or fully realize the Truth about who we are in Jesus.

Have you been following this story?

So many things had happened that shaped how she saw herself.  First she lost her daddy before she turned 3 years old.  By the age of 7, she began to experience intense shame for who she was.

Now she was 14 … and living alone. The kitchen sink was full of sewage. No one knew, but her … and the Lord. Instead of crying, she plunged. And plunged some more. And as she plunged, she sang aloud every hymn she’d ever learned. How Great Thou Art. Savior, Like a Shepherd Lead Us. Glorious Freedom. All four verses of every song she knew.

Sing the wondrous love of Jesus
Sing his mercy and his grace
In the mansions bright and blessed
He’ll prepare for us a place.

When we all get to Heaven
What a day of rejoicing that will be
When we all see Jesus
We’ll sing and shout the victory.

Instead of singing and plunging her way through her fears, she should have told someone so they could call a plumber.  It all seems pointless now.  Or does it?  How could she have made it through such a dark time without the Lord?

Many times throughout the years, life struggles would cause her to question the reliability of His love for her.  But she always knew He was there.

[callout]I know this story well.
Because it’s mine.[/callout]

However, these are only a few chapters of my story … chapters that have their origins in early life experiences and beliefs I’d held about who I was.  There have been many more chapters since then.  You can read more of them here.

But, best of all, I am learning that the best chapters are still ahead for me.

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