A Manual for Men

“A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me.“

Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

For more than a decade, I’ve been trying to help your wives understand you. I give up.

You men are far too complex for women to understand.

  • Mostly because women think they already know who you are.
  • And because you think that your gender is simple and obvious.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

For far too long now, men have been demonized and devalued by most of society. Yes, there are some real cads in this world – male and female. But how did we fall for the lie that all men are worthless?

Absolutely nothing could be further from the truth.

The vast majority of you guys just want to be respected, appreciated, and accepted.

And you want to …

  • protect the woman you love,
  • provide for her, and
  • make her smile.

But you get stuck on Number 3.

She doesn’t laugh at your jokes anymore. Nor does she respond to your efforts to be romantic. You wonder if she even likes you.

No matter what you do, she’s angry. And she talks incessantly. Maybe you even identify with Johnny Depp: She creates constant drama, so you do what you can to avoid her.

You go silent, disengage, hoping she will calm down. But she only gets louder. And more persistent. So you leave the house to give her time to settle down.

Your strategy fails. But you keep trying. Because that’s the man you are.

But what if there were more effective strategies?

What if you could learn what makes her tick and how to bring calm into the storm – no matter how big or small the winds and rain have become? What if you could actually step into the role God has given you as leader of your family with …

  • confidence
  • compassion
  • effectiveness

Every woman needs

  • to be guided
  • to be heard
  • to be held

Every woman wants …

  • to know she is your priority
  • to know you are attracted to her
  • to know you see value in her words

What if you could …

  • Give her feedback without hurting her feelings or making her angry.
  • Ask for what you need from her and get that need met.
  • Be honest with her about your own vulnerability.

Sounds impossible, doesn’t it?

If you’ve ventured into that territory, you’ve probably been burned. Please understand that most women don’t intend to emotionally destroy you. They are reacting to their fears. Remember that culture is telling her lies about you.

And it’s up to you to set the record straight.

I was in the process of writing another book for women, but I’ve changed my mind. A woman’s prerogative, right?

Don’t get me wrong. There are some truly amazing women – outstanding women – strong women who are open to hearing the truth about their effect on their husband’s well-being. They listen and learn and have the confidence to experiment with what I’ve taught them about the psychology of men and marriage. And they have been amazed by the positive impact of a few simple changes.

However, not every woman is ready, willing, and able to do what the few have done. Instead, they lash out at me and go defiantly on their way to destroying the person they pledged to love, honor, and cherish forever.

Now it’s your turn to do the impossible. Obi Wan, you’re our only hope.

A Manual for Men

I’m working on it now. So you can look for more posts like this one … with more detailed how-to’s to test out.

Then I’ll put them all together in one resource for you.

Sound good?
Let’s do this!