Dream Dancing

We all need to engage in Dream Dancing every day. Because what we think about, we bring about. So why not make it Beautiful?

However, many couples I see in counseling typically spend the bigger part of their days imagining the worst about one another. Then they’re surprised when their evening doesn’t go well. How crazy is that?

Let’s think Beautiful Thoughts About One Another!

No doubt, every Christian woman loves the idea of being swept off her feet by a godly man who knows how to lead – gently and confidently, protecting her and guiding her through life. Every Christian woman wants a husband who is willing to die for her, as Christ died for the Church, yes? A woman has no problem submitting to a man she truly believes has her best interest at the forefront of everything he does.

And every Christian man loves the thought of having a godly woman to lead – a woman who is confident and provides him with gentle feedback about how well he’s doing … especially if she’s adept at making him look good in the process. What Christian man would not want a wife whose desire is only to please him and be his partner?

So let’s follow Paul’s advice:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. (Philippians 4:8)

Wanna Quicker Turnaround

Abiding, receiving, and being grateful will take your focus off what’s wrong and put it on what’s right. Why is that helpful? Because whatever you think about (whether positive or negative) will be magnified, not only in your mind, but in your heart and your actions as well. And who would ever want to magnify the negative? Seriously.

  1. Abide means “to remain in, comply with, obey, observe, follow, keep to, hold to, conform to, adhere to, stick to, stand by, act in accordance with, uphold, heed, accept, go along with, acknowledge, respect.”
    Jesus said: “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)
  2. Receive means “to be given, presented with something.” God is the Creator and Initiator of all things. He freely gives us His Love in His Son (John 3:16) through the Holy Spirit (John 16:13). Plus he freely give us grace (Ephesians 1:6), peace (John 14:27), and wisdom (James 1:5).
    Paul wrote:Who has ever given to God, that God should repay them?” For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen. (Romans 11:35-36)
  3. Gratefulness means “warm or deep appreciation for kindness or benefits received; thankfulness for something received from another.”
    Paul encouraged: give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

And there you have the beginning of your turnaround! How cool is that?


forgive me

We’re all still in the process of learning to Love like Jesus does! There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18)

Have you ever seriously considered The Lord’s definition of Love?
According to Scripture, Love …

  • endures forever
  • hopes all good things,
  • does not expect a return,
  • keeps no record of wrongs,
  • and never punishes the beloved.

What has Love been like for you so far?

In the study of human relationships, Psychology and Christianity both explore what it is to love and be loved. But they’re often at odds about how we should love. One focuses on reciprocity (conditional love), whereas the other focuses on giving (unconditional love). Which one describes your experience? [Continue reading …]