Category:The Psychology of Men

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How to Change a Man

How to change a man

You’ve probably heard the saying that when a man marries a woman he’s hoping she’ll never change, whereas a woman marries a man hoping that he will.

It’s often more than a hope for her. He may actually be her Main Project.

But men are not projects. They are people.

I don’t like to be the bearer of bad tidings, ladies, but God only created one perfect man so far … and it took Him nearly 60 years to refine him.  Okay. Forgive me for bragging about the Love of My Life. I admit he’s not really perfect. He’s just close enough to perfect for me. [Queue country music …]

On the Bright Side, however, if the Lord is doing such a great job on My Cute Boy, I believe He can do the same with yours!  Your man can be so much more, and you can actually help him become Your Fearless Leader in the Dance of Romance!

Your man wants to be your Leader in the Dance of Romance … to protect you, guide you, and hold you … to choreograph Your Dance to maximize your pleasure in being with him.

Women have so much influence over a man’s life, and we don’t even realize it! Because much of the time we’re shooting ourselves in the foot. Doing all the things that make him worse (more defensive) … instead of doing things to encourage his self-improvement … things that he actually wants you to do that will naturally shape his behavior in a positive direction!

Learn more about how to change your man here.

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Living with Uncertainty

It’s a fact. There are two kinds of men:

  • those who are unsure of themselves, and
  • those who hide the fact that they are unsure of themselves.

Some are more successful at hiding than others, using one of two tactics:

  • withdrawal, which gives the impression they just don’t care,
  • or anger, giving the impression you are – or someone else is – the problem.

If you would like to know more effective way to respond to his uncertainty & vulnerability (no matter how he tries to disguise it), download Quick Start Guide to Understanding Men by Dr. Debi Smith

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The Beauty of Different

The following comment was recently posted in response to “embracing the dance” that I had shared on my social media pages: “I don’t agree with the premise that women want the men to lead.”

I hear that a lot, actually. And I wouldn’t want anyone to spend time learning about something they are opposed to right from the start.

But I do believe that women want the men to lead. They are just afraid their own man won’t step up and do it well. So many guys never get the chance … because they are afraid of failure. And of having her point out his failure.

As you can imagine, it is really hard to have two leaders in a dance. And it doesn’t work well for the woman to take that role.

  • When it’s done well, man and woman operate in unity.
  • The man is more open to her influence & inspired to do and be all he can for her.

It’s a beautiful experience.

What are your thoughts?

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