Because you are who God says you are. He put you in Christ and Christ in you. His joyful intention is to make you like Jesus by teaching you to live & to love as He did.

Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, so that as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life. For if we have become united with Him in the likeness of His death, certainly we shall also be in the likeness of His resurrection, knowing this, that our old self was crucified with Him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin; for he who has died is freed from sin. Romans 6:4-7

The Impact of Trauma on a Man’s Identity

Most – if not all – men have been emotionally traumatized by women they love. Sadly enough, they are most often abused by their own wives.

However, if that woman was Mom, the impact is greater. Because a little boy doesn’t have the wisdom to understand that Mom is wrong about who he is.

Over the last few years, I have seen more and more clients whose mothers had Borderline Personality Disorder. As a result, these men experience symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. And if the relationship has been lost through distance or death, their struggle makes their grief extremely complex.

Truth: It’s not what happened that makes life hard. You survived all of that.
The Problem is the lie you have believed about who you are as a result.


  1. Be still.
  2. Become aware of The Lord’s Presence.
    Emotionally or intellectually. Either is good enough.
  3. Ask Him, “Who am I in Your eyes?”
    Write down what He says and reflect on the Truth about who you are.

Good News in God’s Promises!

Instead of your shame you will have a double portion,
And instead of humiliation you will shout for joy over your portion. Isaiah 61

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