How to Take Care of a Man’s Heart

How to Take Care of a Man's HeartI love to see a woman who knows how to love her man. She knows he’s sensitive to her. And she uses that knowledge to build him up.

Consequently, she responds lovingly to the man that God created him to be. Affirming both who he is – as well as who he is is becoming.

How does she do it? A Queen gives her King something he cannot get anywhere else. She nurtures his heart. Something every man needs. Daily.

For example, these women know their men well.

Queen Theresa

A few years ago, I had the opportunity to attend a meeting led by a man whose teachings had greatly impacted my life. At the end of his presentation, I walked up to thank him for what he had done in accelerating my own spiritual growth.

Within moments, his wife was by his side. As she snuggled his arm with great affection, I gave her a quick, one-sentence summary of what I’d been saying to her husband.

She was all smiles. “Isn’t he great? Have you listened to his talk on _______? It’s the best! Amazing & powerful. I think we have it on the back table. You should get a copy!”

The man had been friendly & cordial up to that point. But he was obviously exhausted.

However, at the sound of her voice, his face broke into the one of the most joyous smiles I’d ever seen on a man. Her actions & her words were a mirror reflecting how God saw him.

Suddenly he just couldn’t help himself
because he was basking in her reflection of him.

Although he was a gifted speaker, he was an introvert. She was an extrovert. And I had the distinct impression she was rescuing him. I could see how tired he was. But she could feel it.

Theresa knows How to Take Care of a Man’s Heart

Queen Cherie

Just this morning, I was watching a video on YouTube. Different guy. One I’d not heard speak before. He asked his wife to come up & pray before he began. As soon as she began to pray, her enthusiasm for the Lord made him smile.

Most importantly, she then touched her husband’s shoulder & continued, “And, Lord, this amazing, handsome, talented, kind, wonderful,” [paused with her hand on his back and head briefly on his shoulder] “man. God, we just pray, Lord, all of what you have to bring through him. God, we just say yes to that, too.”

As a result, his face lit up like a little boy’s on Christmas morning.
One who’d suddenly discovered exactly what wanted under the Tree.

  • I actually replayed this clip several times.
  • Such joy! Such fun! Such pure delight!

Cherie knows How to Take Care of a Man’s Heart

Both of these women understood their own man.

  • They knew his hopes & fears.
  • As well as the nature of his sensitivity.
  • And they knew how to nurture his heart.

In conclusion, you can’t love & encourage your man if you don’t take time to get to know his heart at the deepest level possible. It begins with listening closely.

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Lessons from the Dance Floor

submission

Whether you’re young or old, you need to learn about mutual submission in Christian marriage: It’s the Beauty of the Dance of Romance!

It’s the guy’s role to make the dance an enjoyable experience for his girl. So he needs to pay close attention to what she likes and what she isn’t comfortable with.

But he can’t take responsibility for pleasing you if you’re always one step ahead of him. You have to let him lead.

That is, your goal is to get into sync with his rhythm. And you do that for one reason:

It will build his confidence as your leader.

No, he won’t get it right all the time. And neither will you. You’re both learning.

If he’s your husband – or you want him to be – it’s even more important that you learn how to encourage his leadership, especially when he’s off a bit. You could give him feedback, but he can tell by the expression on your face when he’s off. He’s way more sensitive to that than you realize.

The best part, however, is that when he’s “off” you get the opportunity to pray for him and to trust the Lord, Who is responsible for leading your lead.

How cool is that?

A Metaphor for Christian Marriage

Fred & Dr. Debi and the Memories Swing Team dance the *Congress of Vienna Waltz at Mariners Church in Irvine, CA. Vintage dance is stylish, elegant, easy to learn, fun, very romantic, and a great metaphor for Christian Marriage.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21

This passage applies to the body of believers in fellowship with one another, so it naturally applies to husbands and wives as well. However, just how husbands and wives are to submit to one another is easily misunderstood in our current culture.

That’s what Ephesians 5 Romance is all about — learning what submission looks like in the 21st Century. In this workshop couples learn to pay attention to one another’s needs and to be responsive to one another in light of his/her unique design and purpose.

* Congress of Vienna, music performed by Bangers and Mash, Breakfast at Fezziwig’s CD, available at www.bangersandmash.us, used by permission. Choreography by John Hertz.