Whether you’re young or old, you need to learn about mutual submission in Christian marriage: It’s the Beauty of the Dance of Romance!
It’s the guy’s role to make the dance an enjoyable experience for his girl. So he needs to pay close attention to what she likes and what she isn’t comfortable with.
But he can’t take responsibility for pleasing you if you’re always one step ahead of him. You have to let him lead.
That is, your goal is to get into sync with his rhythm. And you do that for one reason:
It will build his confidence as your leader.
No, he won’t get it right all the time. And neither will you. You’re both learning.
If he’s your husband – or you want him to be – it’s even more important that you learn how to encourage his leadership, especially when he’s off a bit. You could give him feedback, but he can tell by the expression on your face when he’s off. He’s way more sensitive to that than you realize.
The best part, however, is that when he’s “off” you get the opportunity to pray for him and to trust the Lord, Who is responsible for leading your lead.
Fred & Dr. Debi and the Memories Swing Team dance the *Congress of Vienna Waltz at Mariners Church in Irvine, CA. Vintage dance is stylish, elegant, easy to learn, fun, very romantic, and a great metaphor for Christian Marriage.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21
This passage applies to the body of believers in fellowship with one another, so it naturally applies to husbands and wives as well. However, just how husbands and wives are to submit to one another is easily misunderstood in our current culture.
That’s what Ephesians 5 Romance is all about — learning what submission looks like in the 21st Century. In this workshop couples learn to pay attention to one another’s needs and to be responsive to one another in light of his/her unique design and purpose.
* Congress of Vienna, music performed by Bangers and Mash, Breakfast at Fezziwig’s CD, available at www.bangersandmash.us, used by permission. Choreography by John Hertz.