You gotta know who your real enemy is. The Real Fight is not against one another. The Clash between two Kingdoms is not about Me vs. You. We’re in the middle of a Real Fight between the Kingdom of Heaven and Kingdom of the Air (Ephesians 2:2).
We only have one enemy. And his only tactic is a lie. It’s all he’s ever had … since the beginning of Creation. So the easiest way for him to take us out of commission … to render us ineffective in and for the Kingdom of Heaven … is to pit man and woman against one another. (Genesis 3)
But as Paul said, we are not unaware of his schemes:
Anyone you forgive, I also forgive. And what I have forgiven – if there was anything to forgive – I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes. (2 Corinthians 2:10-11)