Learning to Follow

A few years ago, I asked students in my undergraduate psychology classes if – generally speaking – they thought it would be acceptable behavior for a girl to ask a boy out on a date. The women said yes … and so did the men … sort of.

Further discussion revealed that, although they would find it flattering that a girl was interested in them, almost all the men said they’d feel at least a little uncomfortable with that … and they’d rather be the one to do the asking. Go figure.

Without a doubt, women can be a great leaders.

However, Romance is not the best place to demonstrate those abilities. Instead, this is the one place in the world where we get to relax and enjoy being a girl … for the most part.

Being in relationship with a member of the opposite sex can be fun … challenging … and hard work. And the benefits of loving a godly man by far outweigh the effort it takes to understand him.

Submission gets a bum rap.

But it isn’t at all what it might seem. For the purposes of our present discussion, just think of submission simply as trust and respect. It goes like this …

  • Give him immediate affirmation whenever he pleases you.
  • Demonstrate unparalleled respect for him as a man.
  • Long for all the best of what God has for him.
  • Trust him – and the Lord – to lead you.
  • Make him look good to others.
  • Love him just as he is.

The Most Important Part of Learning to Follow: Pray for him!

Pray continually (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Ask The Lord to strength the man you love from the inside out (Ephesians 3:14-19). And as you ask The Lord to help you become the woman your man needs you to be, keep these verses in mind:

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the lord.
(Proverbs 18:22)

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
(Proverbs 31:12)